I’m on a bit of a downer today. We’ve been doing the rounds with doctors for my partner and our kids. I feel much better knowing that my fiance is now starting to get some answers, and is getting closer and closer to getting the help he needs.
I feel sad because every single one of my three kids are having eye troubles. There’s the whole, ‘where did we go wrong?’ questions (which is ridiculous, as we’ve been assured it’s genetic) and the worry for the kids. Our kids have turned eyes, of varying degrees. My eldest daughter already wears glasses, and I know she hates it. We’ve tried to make it as fun and as awesome as we possibly can, but really, we all wish she didn’t have to wear them. We’ve got the financial side of it covered, having found Zenni, so that’s a good thing.
I worry about how the kids will cope with having corrective surgery, being teased about being ‘cross eyed’ by their peers, as my eldest has been. The rude comments and questions from adults who should know better. The diagnoses and advice from adults who barely know my children and are not equipped to be doing so.
My hope and wish is that one day all three of them will not need glasses, and will get the corrective surgery swiftly. It’s been frustrating. I’ve found with my eldest daughter, that most places we took her for help, didn’t seem to know what to do with her. And kept telling us to wait for surgery, ‘see what happens’. I don’t want to wait to see what happens. After four years of her having these issues, yes, her vision has improved drastically, but she still has the turned eye. Let’s deal with it.
We’ve found an excellent doctor (our search for a suitable doctor out here has been frustrating and time consuming) who is finally taking it very seriously, and is referring us to a fantastic specialist who doesn’t muck around with treatment. Sees the kids quickly, and if they need surgery, gives it to them swiftly.
So, I’m trying to stop feeling sorry for myself and my kids. I know I’m being ridiculous. There are so many worse medical issues a child could have, and I am grateful that it’s not something far worse. I need to remember that. I’m grateful that of all my lovely readers, not one has ever made a rude or thoughtless comment about my kids’ eyes. I love you guys for that! If only all people in the real world had your manners.
I’m extremely grateful to have gotten the doctor that is right for us. More so for my fiance’s sake, who really does have serious issues. It does sound as though life will begin to get a little easier as he gets the treatment he needs.
It’s so difficult to find a good doctor. I’m glad it sounds like you’ve found one and can start moving forward on all of the medical issues.
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It’s so hard when anything is wrong with our kids, big or minor, we just want it to get fixed. There’s always something worse it could be of course, but that doesn’t mean you can’t wish for something better for your kids. As parents we just want to protect them from life, other people’s ignorance, etc. I’m glad you’ve found a doctor that can help.
My daughter is having some real problems with her teeth and will have to have most of them worked on (she’s just 7) and I of course immediately assumed it was my fault for not eating enough calcium when I was pregnant or feeding her the right diet when she was a baby, etc, but no, it’s just that some kids have weak enamel. Such is life!
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I really don’t understand how adults can make rude comments about children. That’s the most sickening thing ever. But I’m so glad that you have found great doctors who will give you some answers after such a frustrating search, for your fiance and for your kids. Wow, you are one strong woman to deal with so much!!! Sending you big hugs.
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Getting the right medical care is a challenge in Canada too. You have to fight for your families needs. Sounds like you are on the right track now. Driving the family train is a tough job. Sometimes a little self-pity is required.
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It is, isn’t it, Marilyn? Thanks so much for your well wishes:)
Wanderlust, you know just the thing to make me feel better, thank you:) I have heard about the weak enamel you mention. I knew a lady whose son had it, and she was vigilant about him not eating any sugar, and he still had problems, so yeah, it just happens to some kids, huh? I hope the work she gets done is hassle free and helps a lot.
Thanks, Steph! You give me waay too much credit for being strong, lol! But thank you. I find I need to have a little meltdown now and then to help me push on, lol!
Thanks, Kristin:) Yeah, I’ve had my sook, and the important thing now is to move on and not steep in the self-pity! lol.
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All I can give you are big virtual hugs
I wore glasses as a child and it does suck, I think I was a bit lucky though because the popular girl at school also wore glasses so everyone was too scared to make fun of them!
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Thanks, Violet:)
I know what you mean, we are lucky in that Harry Potter with his glasses is huge at the moment, so we try to milk that for what it’s worth lol!
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