I’m writing this with a bruised chin tonight. You see, Mr 4 decided that he was so angry at the world, that throwing a heavy wooden toy at my face would make him feel better. Charming.
I mentioned here yesterday and also to my son that my partner is going to hospital next week for a long time. Every other time his dad’s gone to hospital has led my son to become increasingly angry and upset. Unfortunately, he expresses his anger explosively and violently. He becomes defiant, breaking the rules on purpose to get a reaction. He tries saying disrespectful things, such as ‘shut up’, that he knows he isn’t allowed to say.
After having broken the news to him about his father’s impending hospital stay, I braced myself for all of this. My son was right on schedule today, exploding like a time bomb.
As you can imagine, I also feel anger over his behaviour. Like any parent, sometimes I handle it well, other times I handle it terribly. What better time for me to write about this subject, whilst it’s so fresh in my mind? I’m going to write a series about anger management for children over the next few days. Over the course of the series I’ll share how I dealt with my son’s behaviour this time around.
Each day, I’ll cover different aspects that I’m teaching my children about anger. They include:
Finding the source of the anger
Healthy ways children can express their anger
Consequences for harmful expressions of anger
Anger in the real world
Teaching a child how anger works.
I hope you’ll journey with me during this series, and share your thoughts and ideas with everyone. What I’d love to hear from you today, is what you feel causes your child/ren to get angry?
Other reading:
Is it ever ok to lose your cool?
Emotional development – how help children talk about feelings.
Sounds interesting! I’ll be following along. Hope your other half if okay! Sounds like your little man is going to miss him a lot
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Thanks, caz:) Yes, we’ll all miss him, and he us, but I know we’ll get through it. We’ve since found out that his hospital booking has been moved from Tuesday to Thursday, so we’re all grateful to have some extra time with him. That’s another thing I’ve stressed to my son; if he’s going to miss him so much, make the most of this time with your dad now. That helped.
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I am so eager to see what happens and to hear your solutions. My hubby is gone all the time with work, and my son acts out along with it too. Hope your partner gets what he needs from the program they are trying with him. OCD is hard, for the bearer and the carer. Hugs.
knitmyrhino, they really do act up when they’re gone, don’t they? I keep wondering if it’s a boy thing? I mean, Missy 2 is usually a bit of a handful when he goes to hospital, but she’s two, lol. It’s definitely not out of hand to the same extent as it is with my son.
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Frustration is the number one anger provoker in our house. Usually it’s frustration at not being able to do what they want to do (whether from interference, parents asking them to do something else, or lack of ability to accomplish what they want) or an inability to express properly what is going on in their head.
Sounds like an interesting series.
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I’m hearing you there, Beet:) My son gets frustrated at having grown ups telling him what to do. I know how he feels, I used to be the same, lol
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