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Pinterest For Tight Wads

Written on October 9th, 2011 by Hear Mum Roar in Language, Saving money, School aged

Are you addicted to Pinterest yet? I am! So when I saw Tina Gray has a Pinterest blog link-up, I jumped at the chance to share my Pinterest offerings with you.

Recently, Missy 10 became Missy 11! (Her party will be in a few weeks’ time, so I’ll post all about it then) Anyway… Her favourite birthday present was her new Kindle. For those of you not familiar, a Kindle is an ebook reader that fits something like 3,500 books into it. The screen is anti-glare, so it’s just as easy on your eyes as a paper book. We’ve been blown away by how cheap the ebook versions of her favourite books are; most are around $2-$8! Our daughter loves to read a lot, and tends to go through a lot of books in a short space of time.

What I’m really loving though, being such a tight-arse and all, is all the free ebooks you can get for the Kindle. So today, for ‘Ooh.. That’s Pinteresting’, I’m sharing with you my new Pinterest board about free Kindle ebooks that are suited to school-aged children.

A lot of the free ebooks for kids are the classics that a lot of us grew up with as kids ourselves: Treasure Island, The Jungle Book and my personal favourite, Heidi.

We’re pretty much Kindle mad here at the moment. My daughter’s Kindle was $156 at Woolies (Australia). I’ve since heard that there is a new Kindle Fire reader for $199 (in colour) and another one for $79. I’m planning to get a Kindle of some sort before uni starts as I think it’d make my readings a lot simpler to organise.

Do you have a Kindle, or are you thinking of getting one? What are your thoughts on them?

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Board Games

Written on September 27th, 2011 by Hear Mum Roar in Art, Cognitive, Good times, Handmade, Language, Preschool aged, Saving money, School aged, Social

One thing I love about Missy 10 belonging to such a small school (50 kids total!) is that they have time to do such cool things. Sure, at the end of term, they had the usual watching of DVDs, which I don’t mind. But they also had the kids make their own board games.

I’m happy, because I was going to eventually post about this idea myself, now the school has saved me the hassle. Although this is loads of fun for kids, there’s many benefits to be had without them even realising:

Having kids make their own board games let them:

- Make choices and design something, giving them a feeling of autonomy and creativity

- Have an opportunity to problem-solve and mentally plan something in advance.

- Have a maths experience that is more fun than usual. It also doesn’t feel like maths!

- Be sociable, take turns, share, cooperate and be a good sport.

- Use their own imagination.

- Have ‘something to do’ during school holidays; not only as they play the game, but during the creation of it.

- do something fun that is cheap and resourceful.

The name of this game is an insect themed version of snakes and ladders. Missy 10 has added instructions on how to play at the bottom. You can make counters out of just about anything: buttons, coins, even cut up paper or cardboard. You can use a dice you already own, make one out of a box or create a spinning dial. Anything extra that needs to be made just means your kids will be busy for longer.

Of course, you have to be careful if you have under 3′s in the home, due to the small parts in the game. I’m loving that my youngest child is now three, because all three kids are at the perfect age to get pleasure, educational benefits and social skills out of it. Most importantly, they’re all interested!

Missy 10 plans to make more of these over the holidays. I will post her different versions of the games over at Hear Mum Roar’s facebook page, if you’d like to see them. If you have any board games your kids have made, I’d love to see photos of them too, so please upload them to the ‘school holidays’ album so we can all be inspired!

What are your kids doing these holidays? Are you over it yet, or still enjoying the break?

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Finding the Source of Your Child’s Anger

Written on February 12th, 2011 by Hear Mum Roar in Behaviour, Emotional, February 2011, Language, Parenting

‘What’s gotten into him lately?’ Us parents often find ourselves asking this when our child’s anger gets out of control. Or more frequent. This is part two of my anger in children series – figuring out what’s gotten our child so riled up.

Talk to me

When my child is calm, and not in the throes of rage, I talk to them about their anger. I look for things that are worrying, upsetting, frightening or annoying them. Over time, I’ve been teaching Mr 4 about how to name his feelings (think in terms of years, not overnight). This means that that when he’s feeling a certain way, I will use one word to describe it. With repetition, he’s learned what disappointment, frustration and a whole host of other feelings mean. It’s bloody hard for a child to express their feelings when they don’t know what they’re called!

My children enjoy playing our felt game, faces with feelings for fun, but it has the bonus of teaching them to identify and talk about emotions. They enjoy acting out the different feelings, making up scenarios, voices and dialogue. With this foundation, I can talk to my child knowing they’ll understand the emotional concepts I mention.

Reflective listening

I often use this approach here. (I don’t use it as often with Missy 10, as I can ask her what’s wrong and she’ll easily tell me. But it’s good to have a range of approaches for different personalities). Yesterday, after Mr 4 was more open to talking after an explosive episode, I told him, ‘You’re angry because yesterday I told you Daddy’s going back to hospital for a longer time’

Mr 4 tensed up with fury. I knew I was on the right track.

Him: ‘I don’t want him to go’

Me: ‘You’re going to miss Daddy when he’s in hospital’ He nodded.

Me: ‘Last time Daddy went to hospital, you told me he wasn’t coming back, remember?’ He nodded.

Me: ‘And did he come back?’ His eyes widened, and he nodded some more.

Me: ‘You were so surprised and excited when he came home, weren’t you?’ He nodded, got up, gave me a hug and began crying. (Yes, I had some tears, too!)

I let him cry and told him it’s good to let his sadness out. Next, I told him, ‘you’re worried Daddy won’t come back this time too, aren’t you?’ He nodded, and I reassured him that he’d come back this time too, and it’d be such a happy time. He smiled at this, then became serious. ‘Why did you need a doctor’s appointment anyway?’ Ah-ha!

Can you see how this reflective listening works? Without having to interrogate your child, you can expose their deepest, darkest fears – the ones you wouldn’t have guessed. Let’s face it, we can only deal with these issues once they’re out on the table.

Four is such an emotionally intense age. You’ve got the over-active imagination, the monsters in the bedroom and above all, the most literal interpretation of cause and effect. See, my partner has had a lot of doctor’s appointments over the past year and a half. Notably, when he went to hospital for paint poisoning, it was within the hour of returning from a doctor’s appointment. Is it any wonder, that being four years old, he believes that a doctor’s appointment causes us to go to hospital? The truth is, it’s the illness, and the extent of it that caused it.

Similarly, that time he went to hospital, I was the one who rang the ambulance. My son was two years old at the time, and full of resentment toward me. All he could see was that I put his father there (and my partner was refusing to go!), and when he asked if he was coming home, I was the one saying no. He couldn’t see that the illness was causing the hospital stay then, either. To him, I made the phone call, therefore I caused it.

On further discussion, we talked about how he was afraid that both of his parents would end up in hospital at the same time, and he’d have no-one left to look after him. With reflective listening, we scraped through his anger and sadness to reveal a frightened little boy. I won’t bore you with the dialogue, but of course I reassured him that this wasn’t going to happen at all.

Preventative measures

Once we know the source of our child’s anger, we can use this to take preventative measures. I am making sure to explain everything I can about this hospital stay and checking if he has any more questions or worries about it. Because my son gets very physical when he’s mad, I look for ways to help him have a physical release in his play. I see that it’s important that he spend lots of time with both parents as much as is possible, so we allow for that, too.

He and Missy 2 have had some dreadful fights lately, which have also made him angry. I try to ensure they have plenty of time apart to prevent that anger build-up. I remind myself to give my kids fish oil. It’s annoying how everytime things get stressful around here, I forget to give it to them, when in reality, that’s when they need it most!

Tomorrow, I’m going to talk about teaching our children healthy ways to express their anger. I believe if anger isn’t expressed, it can have destructive effects. My son avoids expressing his anger and bottles it up until he explodes. This is the life lesson he needs at the moment, and it’s the one we’re teaching him. It takes time, but I know we’ll get there.

To get in the mood for tomorrow’s installment, how do your kids express their anger? Are you happy with how they do it? What would you like to see improved?

Other reading:

Dealing with anger in children

Healthy ways children can express their anger

Ground rules for anger

Consequences of anger

Is it ever ok to lose your cool?

How do I stop tantrums?

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Quiet Time With Caterpillars

Written on February 5th, 2011 by Hear Mum Roar in Challenges, Cognitive, Experiences, February 2011, Language, Preschool aged, School aged, Toddler

Ok, I know it’s really hard to see the caterpillars in this jar. But I promise you, there’s loads of the buggers in there. I should know. I was sitting outside, trying to enjoy a quiet cup of dandelion tea away from the chaos inside, when they were climbing all over my legs.

I went back inside, to face the noise and arguments of my two younger children. It was afternoon, they’d played everything, done everything, and were at a loose end. I racked my brains as to what I could get them to do that would get them engrossed, happy and above all, quiet. Preferably for a long time. And aside from waiting until we get our own chooks to eat up all the caterpillars, how the hell was I going to get rid of them? Normally they don’t bother me, but there were so many of them and they were becoming a nuisance.

Sometimes, two problems come together to form a solution when you’re a mum, don’t they? I scooped as many caterpillars into a jar with some grass as I could. I plonked it on the table inside and told the kids to look at it. Was there ever a simpler way to keep kids quiet for a cranky mum than this?

They looked at it for ages. They were so excited! They talked about the colour of the caterpillars, about what they like to eat, how they turn into butterflies. Missy 10 is handy to have around at times like this, as she stores so much animal trivia in her head! She told them that some butterflies like to eat their cocoon, that some caterpillars shoot out poison and it can sting and make you itchy (spitfires).

Once they lost interest, I emptied the jar back into the yard, but thankfully, further away from our house where they were bothering me. They haven’t been back. It’s amazing how things just sort themselves out somedays, isn’t it?

Other reading:

Dealing with anger in children

Sibling rivalry solutions

Motherhood: cinch or sentence?

How do I stop tantrums?

Learning through everyday play

Teaching kindness to animals

Is it ever ok to lose your cool?

Evening adventure

Keepin’ it real

Slow down

Finding the time to do it all – time saving tips

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Helping Kids to Make Choices

Written on January 21st, 2011 by Hear Mum Roar in Cognitive, Emotional, Experiences, January 2011, Language, Preschool aged, School aged, Social

My two year old daughter and four year old son stress me out all day long. It’s true. They’re both at the age where they are fighting for autonomy and trying to be ‘big’ and helpful. This is fine and dandy, but it can get to the stage where every little thing becomes a power struggle. All developmentally normal behaviour, but terribly draining. What kids this age are really fighting for, is just a chance be heard. To have a say, make a choice.

When was the last time someone demanded you do something, without giving you a choice? Ok, yeah yeah. If you’ve got under fives, it’s everyday, I know! Let’s be more specific. When was the last time an adult demanded something of you? How did you like it? Our kids are no different! And even though Missy 10 is obviously more emotionally mature than her siblings, it’s still important to her, too. As she journeys further through puberty, this need will become more prevalent than ever before.

What if I told you that giving your kids more choices would save you time? Result in happier, more co-operative children? Children more keen to listen to reason? When a child encounters an adult who allows them choices, they are more respectful towards that adult, and receptive to them.

But my three year old can’t handle choices, you say! Everyday, she stares into her wardrobe, pulls all the clothes out and can’t decide what she wants. The idea is to start with choices they can handle, and over time, they’ll be capable of more and more.

The green or the blue?

I don’t give my two children under five a choice out of twenty things. For example, if I’m getting them dressed, I offer two suitable outfits per child, and ask them, ‘which one would you like to wear today?’ This is a simple choice for them to make, it’s not overwhelming, and they can walk away from the experience feeling empowered and important.

Take turns at choosing

It can be challenging when you have two little ones who both want to make a choice about what they’re doing together and disagree. This is just priceless. Two kids throwing a tantrum, because they both just want what they want. Yay. If we’re having tv time, we try to make sure everyone gets a turn to choose. So, Mr 4 will yell out, ‘I want to watch Thomas!’ But the answer will be, ‘no, you chose the dvd last time, now it’s Missy 2′s turn to choose’. Yes, there is some sulking, but because the kids are used to being given turns, they accept it and know their turn will come. It’s important for kids to learn that there are others in the family too, and everyone matters. This teaches them respect for others.

It also makes it easier for them to accept if mum or dad wants to watch their own show. Yes, mums and dads matter too! Some families let their members take turns at who chooses what is for dinner each night. I want to do this, but I’m just not that organised right now! If you can do it though, go for it. It cuts out a lot of complaining about food dislikes. It guarantees that every night, at least someone will like the meal.

Let them choose parts of the daily routine

Kids under five often really get their knickers in a knot when they want to do something themselves. Missy 2 is potty training at the moment. She loves it. However, she was screaming every time she had an accident. Of course, I told her it was ok, but she kept screaming. I couldn’t make out what she was saying. We eventually deciphered that she wanted to be the one to put her undies in the laundry to be washed! This reiterates what I was talking about with tantrums caused by lack of language.

So now, Missy 2, feeling empowered by this new sense of autonomy, insists on always putting her undies in the laundry and walking with me to get a clean pair. As we walk back, she’ll say, ‘come on, Mummy!’ It’s very cute, but she really feels she’s the boss of that moment. I don’t give my kids full reign over all of our routines, but if their days are punctuated by moments like this, it makes their days more joyful. I think it’s nice when everyone in the family gets some say in the daily routine of the household.

All of our kids have created their own bed time rituals too. We still have some shockers of nights. Tonight was a good example of one of those, but I think that had more to do with the fact that all three knew I was planning to write this post! We let the kids choose what they’d like to take to bed, what song they’d like us to sing, etc. They all have different needs.

Missy 2′s are simple. I want to go to bed. She likes picking a flower to take to bed, but at the moment the flower bushes are too bare! But she likes to go to bed, where her pretty flower sheets and butterfly curtains are, that her mum made. She usually picks out a few toys to snuggle with.

Mr 4 needs comforting, as he’s at the age of nightmares, and an overactive imagination. So, as a result, his routine has evolved into a quiet cuddle and a chat about anything that’s worrying him. He’s also been a bit more clingy, because his dad’s been in and out of hospital over the years and will be going back again soon.

Missy 10 likes to read before bed. We mostly let her, unless it’s getting too late. She likes to fill up her water bottle to take to her room, clear her toys off her bed, and she has her bed toys and blankets set up a certain way. She always asks if the puppies can come in to ‘say goodnight’, and if they’re agreeable, we allow it. Sometimes they end up falling asleep snuggling her!

More rope as they get older

As Missy 10 embarks on adolescence, she approaches a time where kids have a biological need to break away from their parents. It’s at this stage, they are subconsciously preparing for adulthood, the big, bad world. As terrifying as this is for us parents, it’s important to not suddenly revoke all choices from them in fear! Can you imagine the rebellion?

I’m finding that our daughter is happy to respect our wishes (rules), if we give her choices within that. So, she can choose the movie we go to see, sometimes, but it has to be something we feel is appropriate. We also try to help her understand the reasoning behind it. Usually, it’s along the lines of, ‘that one’s a bit too adult sweety, but in a couple of years, you’ll love it!’, ‘this one is pretty scary’, or ‘that one’s a bit too rude for kids your age’. We all agree that these are good reasons, so it works out. Because she’s been told she’s getting closer to being able to watch more mature things soon, it’s given her something to look forward to.

It’ll be interesting to see how this all pans out once she’s a teen, huh?

What choices have your kids been making lately?

Other reading:

Emotional development – initiative

How do I stop tantrums?

Sibling rivalry solutions

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows – will you let your child see the movie?

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Mattel’s Laugh and Learn Learning Book

Written on November 2nd, 2010 by Hear Mum Roar in Baby, Cognitive, Fine motor, Language, Music, November 2010, Reviews, Toddler

Sponsored by Nuffnang

Look at what Missy 2 was lucky enough to receive in the post. It’s a Laugh and Learn Learning Book from Mattel. This title is called, ‘Counting animal friends’. It’s an interactive book with a cute sun button which lights up and depending on which page your child is looking at, makes different sounds. It:

- reads the story to the child
- counts the animals
- makes the animal sounds
- plays songs

I think this book is adorable, and the sound isn’t too noisy or annoying, like some toys. My kids are all obsessed with books, so this caught everyone’s attention. Anything that promotes a love of reading to my kids is encouraged by me.

This book is aimed at babies and toddlers between 9-36 months old. Missy 2 has become utterly attached to it. She sits down playing with it for long periods, pointing at the animals and making the sounds. She likes saying the numbers, too. Her favourite part is looking at the ducks in the book, pretending to flap her ‘wings’ and saying, ‘quack quack!’. She’s even taken to falling asleep on top of it every night.

This book is highly age/stage appropriate, being very simple and appealing to this age group. Mr 4 is extremely interested in counting and numbers at the moment, and as soon as he spotted the book, asked, ‘has this got numbers? Cool!’

I’d also like to add my own little story about Mattel toys. We have always bought a lot of Mattel toys over the years, because they last a very long time. My two younger kids are still playing with a lot of Missy 10′s toys from when she was a baby. They love pushing around her push-along activity puppy and playing with her Little People dollhouse, car, bus, and of course, the dolls that come with it.

As any parent could tell you, little kids can be rough on their toys. Most of our Mattel toys have been thrown around at some time or another, either due to a tantrum, or just from excitement. But all our Mattel toys are still going strong.

But what I am really wanting to tell you about it, is what happened with some of our Mattel toys during our flood in the childrens’ playroom. We had a Mattel Flip Phone on the floor, and a Laugh and Learn Learning Home, which you can see here, both got saturated.

At first, the electronics in these toys didn’t work. But after a couple of weeks, once they’d dried out, they were working again! So please, if your Mattel toys ever get wet and stop working, don’t throw them out! Let them dry out, and they should be fine. We’re very impressed here.

Now I’m going to leave you with a quick video of Missy 2 enjoying her new book. It shows you how the book works, and how much she likes playing with it.

What’s your child’s favourite Mattel toy? Or your favourite, even?

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Emotional development – how to help children talk about feelings

Written on October 28th, 2010 by Hear Mum Roar in Cognitive, Emotional, Language, October 2010, Preschool aged, Social, Toddler

I’ve talked before about the importance of encouraging our children to discuss feelings.

I’ve made some very simple felt pieces to attach to circular faces which have been stuck to the fridge. Our little ones can have fun rearranging the the facial features into different emotions. This is an effective way for children to learn about self expression, reading the body language of others, and having empathy for others.

This is a language rich activity to also help children discuss colours, label facial features, but most of all, to give words to their feelings and become familiar with using them.

It’s handy to have little circles of felt for this purpose, especially for those times when a big felt board is not handy. I think it’d also look great on a child’s bedroom wall.

Best of all? It’s cheap, and very easy to do.

Do your children enjoy felt play?

Other reading:

Dealing with anger in children

How do I stop tantrums?

Emotional development – initiative

Reflective listening

Sibling rivalry solutions

Is it ever ok to lose your cool?

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Child art – string painting

Written on October 28th, 2010 by Hear Mum Roar in Art, Cognitive, Fine motor, Language, Messy play, October 2010, Preschool aged, Toddler

‘Please Mum, I do painting?’ is the plea I hear from Missy 2 on a regular basis lately. She talks about it all day long. She just adores it.

So, my partner and my son went out to run some errands, and Missy 10 was off at school. This left just Missy 2 and I for some Mum and daughter time. Bliss.

I decided to let her engage in some string painting.

This couldn’t have been simpler to set up. I just tied some lengths of string to clothes pegs then let her dip it in the paint, and squiggle it across the paper.

What I love about this activity is that there cannot be any pressure on the child to make the painting ‘look like’ something. Regular readers will know that open ended art/craft/play in general is something I like to get on the soap box about!

Hands up who thinks she’s enjoying herself?

Missy 2, much in the adventurous spirit of any toddler, got all experimental after a little while. This is cool, don’t try to fight it… Even though an activity has been set up in one way, it’s great if it ends up evolving into something else entirely. Our children need to explore the paint, the paper, their hands, textures, concepts, and so on. Just roll with it.

See how she just immerses herself further and further into the experience? What have your children painted lately?

As you can see, I’ve shown where I usually write the child’s name and date (I didn’t put my child’s actual name for privacy reasons). Labelling artwork in this way reinforces name recognition, and writing it on the left side mimicks the pattern in which we typically read and write. I like to add the date for sentimental reasons, but it could easily be left off.

Other reading:

The useful box

Our art gallery

Art for children who hate mess

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Rainbow art

Written on October 25th, 2010 by Hear Mum Roar in Art, Cognitive, Fine motor, Good times, Language, Messy play, October 2010, Preschool aged

Today was much like a hot summer day in the middle of spring! We took our spray bottles out the back, hung a sheet over the fence and Missy 2 and Mr 4 sprayed the heck out of it. Last time we played with spray bottles, we did it flat on the ground on paper, but hanging a large sheet of paper or cloth allows the children to be more free with it.

Daisy, as always, was faithfully hanging around the kids, you can see by how muddy Missy 2 was, that Daisy was happy to see her! The poor thing got knocked over in the mud. Not to be deterred, her and Mr 4 got on with the important business of playing.

Mr 4 instigated lots of experimental play with these spray bottles. He believed that if he sprayed lots of colour onto flowers that he could make them grow faster…

He was deeply dissappointed that they didn’t grow before his eyes! So, he turned his attention to our irises (some of which were taller than him) and painted them blue.

…Now that’s what I call art!

Also, you’ve probably noticed by now Hear Mum Roar’s new look. I have the wonderfully talented Violet Le Beaux to thank for designing the new graphic art, so thank you!!

Come play at the Childhood101 We Play link up

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Science experiments for school aged kids

Written on October 16th, 2010 by Hear Mum Roar in Cognitive, Fine motor, Good times, Language, October 2010, School aged

Missy 10 had some extra pocket money to spend as a result of her recent birthday. She bought herself an Eco Forensic Lab. (This isn’t a sponsored post, nor a review, I’m just really impressed with what she bought!)

This needed adult supervision, so her Dad helped her with this.

The kit provided her with protective gear, because some of the chemicals were dangerous! She was handling lime water, which went smokey, and calcium hydroxide powder. As you can see, this is very fiddly work! Great for those fine motor skills. Here she is cutting up litmus paper, and trying very hard not to touch it.

She had a ball, testing soil and water in our yard for richness, organic matter and now she has to wait a few days for it to dry out. After this, she’ll be analysing it for chemicals. She is devastated that she has to wait!

Other things she’ll be able to test for are mini beasts in our water and soil, humidity in our air, and so many more cool things. I must say, it’s leaving me feeling very dumb… But I can see that this is an excellent activity for school aged kids, and my fiance and Missy 10 were out in the studio for hours, having a ball, working together.

I would highly recommend this kit if you have a bored school-aged kid, especially if it were school holidays! Have your kids tried any fun kits lately that you’d recommend? My man is dying to get Missy 10 an electronics kit, but she’s not convinced it’d be any fun just yet.

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